Qualities of a lady

We keep hearing about gentlemen should do this, gentlemen should do that. All good guys should behave very gentlemanly (we are excluding bad boys) blah blah! But have we ever wondered how should a gentlewoman should behave? What should be the code of conduct for a gentlewoman? You think I am kidding ? Nope! Recently Elle magazine published 39 steps to be a gentlewoman and I am quoting them “We at ELLE think chivalry; charm and exceptional manners are just as dashing female characteristics as they are male.” and they are absolutely right girls and why not? Let’s relearn the lessons of modern gentlewoman who stands proudly and equally with all those gentlemen!

1.Helps strangers carry pushchairs or suitcases downstairs

2 Can assemble an IKEA Billy Bookshelf in under 3 hours

3.Holds doors open for other women

4. Knows when not to tweet what she’s thinking

5. Possesses at least one killer black dress

6. Refrains from interrupting others

7. Can make supper when there’s just an avocado, jar of capers and bottle of Prosecco in the fridge

8. Does not wear flesh coloured tights

9. Makes actual telephone calls to friends

10. Uses the flamenco dancer emoji sparingly

11. Knows how to politely send back under-par food in restaurants

12. Has a good firm handshake

13. Is neither too late or too early

14. Does not eat lunch at her desk

15. Asks ‘what are you into?’ not ‘what do you do?’

16. Makes her own canapés for parties

17. Flirts with men and women

18. Does relevant ‘voices’ when reading books to children

19. Is not a fussy eater

20. Says ‘thank you’ when complimented

21. Dances even if badly

22. Drinks whisky

23. Knows when to leave a party

24. Knows when to not leave a party

25. Doesn’t ‘vape’

26. Has read The Golden Notebook

27. Is nice to the interns

28. Calls herself a feminist

29. Can make a speech

30. Can make a soufflé

31. Doesn’t complain about lowcost airlines

32. Writes thank you cards

33. Plays board games

34. Can do at least three different swimming strokes

35. Does not understand Snapchat and does not care.

36. Orders pudding

37. Match-makes friends

38. Reads one actual newspaper every day

39. Knows when to rip up the rulebook

 

BEING A FEMALE IS MATTER OF BIRTH,BEING A WOMAN IS MATTER OF AGE BUT BEING A LADY IS MATTER OF CHOICE!

 

Published by Swapnil Pandey

Swapnil Pandey is the best selling Indian defence author who has written The Force behind the Forces, Soldier's girl and Love Story of a Commando published by International publishing houses like Penguin random house and Westland Amazon publishers. She is married to an Army Officer and many from her family serve the nation in uniform too. The effortless portrayal of army life comes from this fauji background. Her latest book 'The Force behind the Forces' is based on the real-life stories of Veer Naris and immortal Indian Soldiers. The book is published by International Publishing House Penguin Random House in November 2021. Apart from this non-fiction, she has also written two fictional stories: 'Soldier's Girl' a fiction based on the constant struggle of a Para Special Operative between his call of duty and love life and 'Love Story of a Commando' an endless adventure between an NSG Commando and his beloved published by Mega publishing giant Westland-Amazon. She is also working on her fourth book which she intends to bring forward by 2022. Apart from her illustrious career as an author, she is also a prominent blogger who works in close collaboration with various national and international brands. Since lockdown 2020, she has also started producing motivational and informational videos to add value to the lives of her audiences as a societal influencer. These videos have created a huge impact and have been pivotal in raising various social issues around military families. Being part of the fauji fraternity herself she holds huge respect for men in uniform and since her voice reaches lakhs of people, she considers it her duty to raise awareness about the sacrifices these men and their families make in the line of duty. She believes it is the duty of a nation to not only look after the well being of its soldiers and their families but also honour their memories. The lives of Veer Naris (women whose fauji husbands are immortalised) also occupies a major part of the work and awareness drive.

48 thoughts on “Qualities of a lady”

  1. Now this sounds like a real list. 🙂 You’ve given me some insight into what I should be looking for.
    I better not say much about this until I am sure about the gentlemanly traits I possess. However, I would love to have atlas 22 of the traits mentioned. That would make a perfect woman for a classy gentleman. 🙂

    Good work mate. You’ve done the magic again. 🙂

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    1. Well elle published these traits in reply to country mens magazine 39 steps to modern gentleman. ..search u ll surely find it n I hv nt read the modernly gentleman traits….It ll b fun to read if u could write something

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      1. Oh ! I’ll definitely check that out. Will do a tiny search.
        Oh come on Swapnil, after reading this post, I’m not too sure if i’d do justice to it. You are made for this content. Only you can do best what you do. Thank you for feeling that way, nonetheless.
        I’ll strive to keep you entertained with something gentlemanly, nonetheless. 😉

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  4. Ye ye !! You made my day dear i think i fit in the 95 percent criteria of a being a gentlewoman .. How imaginative you are , the thought of writing such aeticle made me admire you more .. :* cheers to the Womanhood .. 👏💃💃

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