Remember the viral video of a crying child who looked like getting tortured by her mother while learning number counting. She was constantly pleading her mother to teach her lovingly and complained about headache and ear pain. But it did not stop her mother from slapping and torchuring her mercilessly. The whole world condemned that cruel and heartless mother including Indian cricket skipper Virat Kohli, batsmen Shikhar Robin Uthappa and Yuvraj Singh who posted this viral video on their Facebook Pages and also tweeted about it while condemning the mother for terrorizing the kid in the name of education and they also appealed to other parents for not indulging themselves into child abuse. This started a whole new debate and TV channels also broadcasted this video and the mother became a living evil over 1.5 minutes video.
This was Part 1
Part two is that the crying baby is identified and her name is three year old Haya who is the niece of Bollywood singer-composer Toshi and Sharib Shabri. Toshi is a renowned Bollywood singer with hits like ‘Emotional fool, Saturday-Saturday,Resham ka Rumaal’ etc songs. And here what the family members has to say about the entire ruckus created by the viral video which got attentions of even cricket stars. Toshi slams Virat Kohli and says
Virat Kohli and Shikhar Dhawan don’t know about us. No one knows their children better than them and people should refrain from judging the family.
Toshi sides the mother of the crying kid Haya who is his sister basically and says “Hamare bachche ke bare mein humein pata hai naah ki hamara bacha kaisa hai! Uska nature hai waisa… Agle hi pal woh khelne chali jaati hai. Agar aap usko chod do toh woh kahengi main mazzak kar rahi thi. Uske nature ki wajah se chod denge toh woh padai bhi nahi kar paayengi.”
The family didn’t expect the video to go viral. “Woh video ek maa ka video hai, apne bhai aur husband ko dikhaane ke liye banaya tha, ki bachchi bahut ziddi ho gayi hai.”
The video was supposedly made for the family’s WhatsApp group and found its way on the internet.
Toshi further adds “The homework she gets in nursery, of learning numbers, she’ll never be able to learn. Woh jo rona hota hain, woh us moment ke liye tha taaki uski maa use padaaye na aur khelne de. Chota bachcha hai 2.5-3 saal ka. It’s not a big issue. Har ghar mein bachon ki alag zidd hoti hai, alag-alag tareeke ke bachche hote hain. Ye bachchi bahut zyada ziddi hai lekin humari laadli hai.”
Also, Toshi says no one should make a judgment by just seeing a 1.5 minute video. “Ek maa ki mamta hai, judgment nahi kar sakte hain. Jisne usko 9 months kokh mein rakha hai. Ab agar bachche zidd karenge toh unko padana likhana chod dein kya? Bachon ko paalna asaan nahi hota.”
Now that the other side of the truth is also out what do you have to say about it? It is true that Indian married women are under tremendous pressure. They not only have to look after the children but also husband and family along with other household works including cooking and washing clothes. Even though many can afford a maid to help them out, nurturing a child is primarily considered a mother’s job .
So it is really unfair to judge a mother if you don’t participate into the kid’s upbringing. Indian mothers are in constantly judged by the family members and especially from female folks of the family like their Mother in laws to keep on producing kids and raise them according to their wishes even though they would hardly ever contribute. It is still not a culture in India where family members distribute work around the kid and so from teaching her lessons to changing her diaper is primarily a Mom’s job. And for rest of the family members it is basically a choice where husband’s job is limited to playing with the kids only.
With the rise of nuclear families society is changing in a regressive manner where nobody wants to take the responsibilities of the babies and its considered to be the parents job only. And most husbands are either disinterested and they consider spending time with the kids as a job only.While the elders of the family limit their roles to occasional helps to free advises mostly. End result is judging a MOM!
So isn’t it if somebody is doing a job and taking the responsibility of a baby completely upon herself then isn’t it unfair to judge that person rather showing compassion?
Once a woman becomes a mother, the child takes the center stage and people forget her existence as a woman but a mother! Every single act is judged by the society. From her professional choices to her idea of fun! It is brutal. And it should stop.
This video is just an example about how people love to look at only one side of the truth and ready to judge instantly without even bothering to straighten their facts.
A mother is a human first.Give her a chance!
After all she is the one who produced that life at the first place(with completely losing herself in the process) and molded her life around that little life willingly. While there are individuals and no two moms can raise their children alike and sometimes may be wrong too but nobody has the rights to compare two mothers together and raise finger on their efforts.
But think twice before telling a mom that she is not a good mom!