Life is as simple as you perceive it and as complicated as you make it. The simple mathematics of life is similar for everyone but what creates the difference is ‘your attitude’ … be the kind of woman everyone should be,don’t follow the rat race rather be an example. Here are the things you need to do and need to be … just not to be a shitty woman.
Your husband is not your slave
You want to be your husband or boyfriend’s queen,treat him like a king first. You want all the attention,care and affection from his side,give this first. He is your husband and he has his limitations as well,don’t throw tantrums if he is not able to fulfill your wishes. If you are ‘princess of your parents than your husband is also the prince of his parents,Don’t expect him to tolerate your stupidities.
Nobody owes you anything’
Your parents,your siblings,your husband,your neighbours,the people,this society or even the nation,nobody owes you anything. Don’t expect people to leave their seats in public transport just because you are a woman. Don’t expect your neighbours to wish you just because you demand it,don’t expect your folks to carry your burdens. You are a capable woman, if you can give birth and raise another life you can do anything.
Don’t be a scary woman
Don’t create hell for other women around you. Love your Mother-in-law and treat your daughter in laws like your own daughter. Don’t be a sad nasty woman people curse under the breath rather try to control your demons,forget the past and lead by example of how happy women can create heaven on earth. You believe in woman empowerment,start at home.
Just because the other woman is wearing westerns,she is not loose and just because the other woman is wearing ethnic she is not behenji. Just because the other woman is introvert does not mean she is snooty and just because the other woman is extrovert does not mean she is all drama. Keep your verdicts to yourself and try to be more than that.Live and let live.
Try to be a woman of substance!
Don’t utilize people by the virtue of your father or husband’s position. Work hard, lift weight, do your tasks alone, gain knowledge about more and more fields, walk alone with confidence and push your limits.Gender equality doesn’t mean teaching your sons to help women but learn to treat men with respect first. Don’t be a lazy woman and blame your man for your miseries,come out of your comfort zone,break your shackles and be the kind of woman you want to be on your own.
Don’t beg for the equality, establish it.
Men are not ATM
If you can earn well,you can also spend well. Don’t depend upon your husband or boyfriend or even father to pay your bills. They are not ATMs and neither owe you anything. Hypocrisy don’t go long way and will only help you lose your dignity as well as respect. A true feminist always and forever stands on her own feet.
Your knowledge of brands does not make you modern your education and attitude does. Fair skin is not a privilege but intellect is. Rather than being a Wife of some rich man, you can be a sportsperson, a writer, a doctor, an engineer, businesswoman and what not!Feminism is not a movement but inside you.
Live the life on your own terms and identity. It is for once.
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